Curl up in bed with some popcorn and watch a funny movie, a comedy special or maybe even some of your goofiest home movies or videos from an old phone or camera — whatever is going to make you belly laugh like your bad day never even happened. On the other end of the spectrum, sometimes you just need to have a good cry. Swap the popcorn for some chocolate and put on the sappiest or most tear-jerking movie you can think of — we suggest Marley and Me, Titanic or Up. Put on one of your favorite albums and allow yourself the time just to sit and appreciate the music without other distractions.
Imagine the smell of warm chocolate chip cookies filling your house or apartment. Tollhouse cookie dough is a wonderful thing, as you can get all the good stuff without putting in the work of making the dough yourself — which is probably the last thing many of us would want to do after a bad day.
Meditation is the practice of becoming more aware of your thoughts, feelings and emotions. It focuses on simply noticing these things as they occur, rather than judging yourself for them or interpreting their meaning. Try using meditation to get back to basics and clear your mind of any negativity or stress. I want to wrestle against messages that devalue the worth of a person based on economic status, their ability to perform, or how much space they take up in the world.
My struggle is woven together with my gifting in the way it pushes me to challenge and question, to love fiercely and defend the underdog. It does not permit me to turn a blind eye to injustice or suffering. It allows me to live with deeper compassion than I might otherwise. In many ways my struggle is tied to being a Highly Sensitive Person.
Learning this changed my life. I refuse to live under shame anymore and I reject shame over my family. I want you to step out from under the shame that keeps you quiet and hidden.
That tells you struggle is all there is for you. I want you to understand that you matter and YOU need to do the work to pick yourself back up.
Or you need to ask for help and allow others to help pick you back up. Falling is not the problem. Staying down in the muck is. You need to stubbornly pick yourself back up however many times it takes. Life is incredibly messy and hard at times and struggle in no ways defines you or determines your value or worth.
And in seasons that are too dark and too hard, we can allow others to hold us up when we can no longer do it for ourselves. We are simply human doing our best to navigate this world without a rulebook. I am a big fan of meeting with a psychologist or trauma therapist but for you the right choice might be an Al Anon meeting, spiritual or grief counseling, telling the truth to your best friend, getting one on one support for mind-body health many women who work with me also work with therapists and medical doctors.
To pick ourselves back up, we need to tell the truth about how we are feeling and be heard. I believe the journey is best made in brave community. Give it two weeks and notice the shift it can make in the way you feel about yourself.
Before sleep, as you lay in bed, take a few deep, slow breaths, noticing the rise and fall of your lower belly. Ask yourself: what are 3 things I am grateful for today? What is 1 thing I would do differently next time? This last step is about growth not criticism. One bout of failure or season of struggle does not determine your entire future any more than one sunshiny day does. Baby steps with consistency matter. Each day, many times each day if necessary, remind yourself of who and how you choose to be and then identify one healthy step you can take to move you forward.
Making peace with this can go a long way in helping you move forward. Or, do you find yourself regularly battling your inner critic? You are not alone. Sharing your feelings and talking things through is one of the best ways to pick yourself, dust yourself off and start all over again. Taylor Counseling Group offers affordable and accessible care with a compassionate professional who can support your journey and help you gain perspective.
To meet with one of our highly trained counselors, schedule your appointment online today. We provide affordable, reliable, and accessible care across Central Texas. Find a location near you. Search Search. Playing music. Getting out of the house. Talking with a friend or loved one. Start Over in a Healthy Way As I adopted these thought patterns and practiced them, I found I did indeed become more gentle with myself, and over time I actually stopped perceiving myself to be on the ground so much.
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